Updated on October 2, 2017
Hurricane Harvey. Hurricane Irma. Massive fires in Washington, Oregon, Montana, Texas, and California. Racial wars. Political division. Bomb threats. Suicides due to internet bullying.
We are a mess…and we need kindness more than ever. The news is completely depressing. (We have actually all but stopped watching the news and we are much happier because of it!) There is just one thing after another that’s bad! Is there any good news? Is there anything good going on? Read More
Updated on September 30, 2017
“The LORD sends poverty and wealth; he humbles and he exalts. He raises the poor from the dust and lifts the needy from the ash heap; he seats them with princes and has them inherit a throne of honor. “For the foundations of the earth are the LORD’s; on them he has set the world.”1 Samuel 2:7-8 NIV
Even though I grew up in an upper class family (thanks to my dad building a business form the ground up when I was a teenager), I never realized that’s what we were due to my parent’s frugalness. We never had name brand clothes, items, or food. As a teen, that was a bit frustrating! For college, I went I went to a Christian college that was ridiculously cheap, and barely spent anything there (besides the overpriced books!). After college, I felt called to work in ministry and got a job as a church secretary. They made me an elementary teacher after awhile (because an 98% introvert with anxiety having to use a phone and interact with adults is a bad combo.) and was making $500 A MONTH to live as a single woman. Yes. That including rent, utilities, food, etc.) After a couple of years of this, I felt the strain of this and got my first loan–from my parents–just so I could afford to move to my new job a state away. (My mom, being a “frugal” one, made me pay her back…) I repeated the same process as being a secretary at first (didn’t I learn the first time?!), then becoming a preschool teacher–my true calling. The pay was much better considering, but I found myself working 50 hours a week just to make ends meet. This didn’t even include parent/teacher conferences, grading, lesson planning, concerts, etc, that was without pay. (I did this for about 7 years before I burnt out.) During this time, social media became big, and I started to see how others were living and how “successful” they were. That’s when the jealousy and the discontentment started to slide in. Just a bit. Around that time, too, my best friend at the time was making a ton of money working for the government near D.C., and stared to feel distain for my lack of spendable finds. She wanted to go in all these trips, eat sushi every single weekend, etc. with me, and I just couldn’t afford to. She did pay my way a few times, but she started to really resent it. She couldn’t understand my situation at all. I felt so ashamed. Fast forward to a year when I met my husband and fell in love with him at first sight. We quickly got married (because why wait?), and fell into another area of not having much money. He owns his own business that doesn’t get steady pay. (He also works on movies, but the movie industry has pretty much dried up in our area.) By this time, I haven gotten so good at saving! Meal planning, not shopping (good thing I hate shopping!), getting used free clothes, buying used cloth diapers, get Medicaid, etc. However, living this way puts a silent strain on things. Just once, I’d like to buy something for me. Just once, I’d like to go on vacation that doesn’t involve seeing family. Just once, I’d love to shower every day instead of every other day to save on oil. I’d love to buy a house. Read More
Updated on October 2, 2017
Starting a blog was hard for me. I have tried blogging a few different blogs in the past, but didn’t get any followers, so I quit. Maybe it’s because I am an introvert and many people like extravert bloggers better? Is it because I’m a hot mess? Most of my Facebook friends don’t care? I don’t have any real face-to-face friends?
Who knows. Read More