We Are All Designed Differently {Inspiration}

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.  I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made.  Psalm 139:13

In this day and age, with the popularity of social media, it is so easy to post about our day to day life with our children.  We blog about parenting and how we do things.  It is also easy to criticize and judge how someone parents because someone does it different than we do. Not because it is detrimental to a child.  Not because it is abusive.  Not because it is illegal.  But, because it is different than what we would and have done.

However, we are all designed differently.  Not one of us is the same, even twins!  Don’t be afraid to be different.  God created us with unique features, personalities and traits.  We cannot accomplish great things by all being the same!  Celebrate that!

God made all our children different too.  Not one of us parents the same, and that is fine!  What works for one child doesn’t work for another.  Just because you parent your child one way doesn’t mean it’s the only way and doesn’t make it wrong.  Just as long as you are not hurting your child mentally or physically, and you are doing things for your child’s best interest, then it is fine!  You want to cloth diaper?

Fine.

You want to use disposables?

Fine.

You what to breastfeed?

Fine.

You want to use formula?

Fine.

You let your child watch TV before the age of 3?

Fine.

You don’t allow your child to watch TV?

Fine.

You homeschool your children?

Fine.

You send your children to public school?

Fine.

Just because you raise your child differently than mine doesn’t make it wrong.  And vice versa!  As parents, we want the best for our children, and will do all that we can to get it.  Just as long as we are raising kind, caring, compassionate children, then so be it!

If we all were raised the same, parent the same, what a boring world this would be!

Think about it.

Being a parent is the best way to humble a person.  When I taught (all ages, but mostly preschool) for 13 years, there was things I saw that I swore I would never let my future child do.  I wanted my child to be “yes, ma’am, no, sir”.  I never would let my child talk back.  I would feed my child super healthy foods and never let him/her eat junk foods, just carbs, or juice.  I would let my child cry herself to sleep and never let her sleep with me.  But, once Lemon came, everything chances.  You realize that your child is your own person and everything you would never do, you find yourself doing/not doing!  My idea of perfect parenting changed when I had my daughter. For instance, my perfect idea of discipline that has been engrained in me by Christians my whole adult life doesn’t work with my child.  I had to adjust to what works for her.  Does it mean the other way of discipline is wrong?  No, it just means there is another way that works better. It’s easy, especially as a person without any child, to judge someone’s parenting style and say, “Oh I would never let my child do that!”  But, when you are in the midst of it, you realize that we really are all in this together and what you would never do, you do.

How we react to other’s parental stylings is also key here.  Let’s be mature enough and strong enough to build each other up, instead of tearing each other down, just to make ourselves feel better.  Be confident in yourself and your parenting style, and let us all raise our children the way that God wants us to be.

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